So in getting ready for the wedding, I splurged on a "mani/pedi." And believe me, after all the weeding, pruning, painting, staining, and cleaning to get my house ready for guests--my nails were in trouble!!!
The most interesting thing was the amazing conversation I had with the manicurist. She had some unique views about God and spirituality (including reincarnation). In the past, I would've been "ready with an answer" to argue with her about where she was wrong. Instead, we had an amazing dialogue. On some points (other than reincarnation), I listened intently and tried to find truth in what she was saying. I shared with her my journey and some of my fears and doubts. She said she'd read a quote about "maybe we don't know everything about God and can learn from others." Then I was able to challenge some of her views later that maybe she didn't know everything. In fact in one area I agreed with her and still asked, "But what if we're wrong?" She later thanked me for opening up her eyes to how she'd boxed in her views. And even at one point she said she'd read that "God has only one son and it's us." I responded, "Now I don't believe that. I do really believe that 'Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life...and that no one comes to God but through him.' " By the end of the conversation, I asked her to jot down the names of books, films, etc. that she'd mentioned so I could learn. (We even hugged goodbye!)
It was an amazing evangelistic dialogue that wasn't about "arguing" her into the kingdom of God. It was about respect and listening and sharing. So I shared this with friends at work and one of them asked, "What does that mean for the way we teach kids?"
Interesting! I know this kind of dialogue and encouragement to think is at the heart of Grapple curriculum. And we seek to ask thought-provoking questions in all we do. I'm curious, though, about what others have found. Is it possible to dialogue with children of all ages--and not just tell them what to think? What do you think? What are you doing that's working?
I think so. Richard Coles brought a lot of ground with that approach in his Spiritual Life of Children Book.
I think its harder in a classroom setting. You need good staff/child ratios. You need to set aside your teaching objectives (for a time).
But it's important. The children aren't coming in to our classrooms devoid of spirituality and opinions.
Posted by: Larry Shallenberer | July 08, 2009 at 06:45 PM
Thank you sooooo much Christine for sharing this experience! I am so excited about your conversation. You are right... it's not about arguing someone into the Kingdom. You planted seeds. Someone else will plant more or water. The Holy Spirit will do the growing, and hopefully she will respond to the wooing of the Spirit. I hope you don't mind... I'm going to share this story on my blog.
Here's to more God moments like that!
Posted by: Henry Zonio | July 10, 2009 at 12:14 PM